Currently sobbing at 4 am because I miss his touch and I miss him. How can I bear it, or maybe I never will?
Just a few hours ago I saw this message.
The distance separating you and your SO partner can sometimes seem intolerable. Like watching a ship sailing off in the distance as you sit on dry land.
Being physically close and touching your partner is key to a successful serious long-term relationship.
We can distinguish between three types of touch: Direct, indirect, and virtual touch. The connection between these types of touch is significant because any one of them can give a similar feeling.
The best is usually direct touch when you and your SO personally physically touch your bodies. That requires zero distance separation. Not practical during your LDR.
However, the two other types of touch also play a key role in emotional closeness. For example, during war soldiers often touch pictures of their SO and family. This provides emotional stimulation even though they may be thousands of miles apart.
Indirect touch is the next best type of touch. This is where a tool like SenzyBee transfers your touch in real-time. As you touch slowly and softly, so does the tool. As you increase speed and intensity, so does the tool.
Combine SenzyBee touch with video and audio, your imagination tricks the brain, you actually stimulate the brain's receptors. Because our brain does not feel a huge difference between “real life” and imagination or fantasy.
Finally, there's virtual touch. We've come a long way since WWII soldiers touch pictures of their SO. For example, you can touch your phone screen while talking with your partner. This also can communicate the feeling of touch to your brain. But virtual touch is not as effective as the above direct or indirect touch.
Being in love often takes patience. And the romantic heart becomes impatient – especially when you're apart. However setting up specific timetables of when and how you will communicate (adding impromptu goodies), and knowing when you will close the distance, can satisfy the romantic heart to some extent.
Although you may be ready to wait “till the end of time,” knowing specifically the time you'll be (back) together with your partner can give you the strength of calmness to make do with tools like video, audio, and alternative forms of touch until you are in each other's arms.
Geographic closeness has long been considered essential to serious relationships. In the past, most couples found their partner nearby. I did make the relationship a little simpler.
Today relationships develop with little regard to geographic distance from each other. This may be because of work, family, or having discovered each other on the internet, or while on vacation far away.
Now, LDRs enjoy a higher rate of success than ever before. In large part, because they have and use video, phone, and text more than ever.
And they expect remote touch will help bridge the distance in your relationship.
Given the above considerations, you can tolerate greater and greater physical distance, whilst maintaining your emotional closeness.
This requires making the best use of the available communication tools.
Still, not everyone can stand long physical distances for extended periods. Optimizing all the variables needs to take into account personal and circumstantial factors.
But they will be able to maintain an LDR more easily, at greater distances, and for longer than ever before.
Wishing you a better long-distance relationship,